Young Christy often got in trouble for not wearing what my mom laid out for school. I grew up in a Nigerian household where we had clothes for various events and functions. There were school clothes, church clothes, party clothes, play clothes, and home clothes. You were not allowed to wear church clothes or fancy clothes to school. And that was a problem for me because my church clothes were so much prettier than my school clothes. I wanted to look cute and pretty not only at church but also at school.
During those days, the school bus stopped right in front of our house. My parents would leave for work, and I was supposed to sit (dressed for school) and wait on the bus. As soon as the car pulled out of the driveway, I would change my clothes and put on one of my pretty church outfits. It got to the point where my mom would make surprise visits to my school and I would get into so much trouble!
As I got older, I was often told that ” I did too much” or “Everything is not a fashion show” and I was often criticized for being so into clothes. Now that I am a full-time content creator, influencer, and fashion blogger – what would I tell younger Christy?
A few thoughts for young Christy
- It was not your clothes that intimidated people it was your spirit.
- Your inner beauty is what makes you truly beautiful.
- Do not be afraid of your power, walk in it and own it!
- Your style is a way of saying who you are without saying a word.
- Do not seek validation from others, validation is for parking!
As I look back on my life and all the times people tried to tear me down and make me feel less than I now understand that it was a reflection of their insecurities. I now understand that dressing in nice clothes and looking good was a reflection of how I felt on the inside. People wanted me to dim my light – but I persevered and let my light shine. I am so proud of the woman that I am becoming and I am proud of young Christy for not giving up.
